B+C+B+C+B+C: Our last date

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Our last date

Well, I guess it's not accurate to say this was our LAST date... I mean, eventually our kids will be old enough to leave with babysitters/friends... but last Saturday felt like a last hurrah to our relative ease in planning outings together. Our good friends agreed to let Brianna play at their house for a few hours, and we had initially planned to go see Eclipse. But then I remembered that the temple would be closed next Saturday (Pioneer Day), and the Saturday after that might be toooooo late (and my dress TOO TIGHT!) and the movie theater would still be open on the holiday and we could wait to see Eclipse. So we trekked down to the sweltering desert of St. George and did our last session together, then went to a little outdoor bistro with misters and fans blowing on us.

It was so nice to spend time together! I'm going to really miss going to the temple with Brian. It will be a long time before we can do that again... I mean, who's going to watch our crazy toddler and infant twins?! Even in a year or two when they're older and weaned and content without with their parents nearby... there's THREE of them - that's a lot to ask anyone to take care of! I'd like to know how other parents manage temple trips in the midst of these young-family years. I know we can trade off and just go without each other... but that's not the same. We did it when we were in Vernal - the temple was walking distance away, so once a week I'd say adios to Brian as soon as he got home from work and head over. I guess it's a small sacrifice to make, in the long run. When we're old, we can do whatever we want whenever. Just like the first 3 years of our marriage - we got to enjoy trips together nearly every week, with a frozen yogurt date afterward. Then a little break when the monkey arrived. But as soon as she'd take expressed milk in a bottle, I could go again. Now, though, even in a few months when our babies might do the same, I can't imagine leaving Brian solo with all three! So... no solution. We'll just figure it out somehow (that seems to be my motto with life-planning in general these days - we'll just figure it out somehow). Another reason I'll miss having official dates with Brian - he gets all suave and opens doors, holds my hands, sneaks kisses.... it's so fun, and makes me feel attractive despite my large-woman status. I love my B. I guess we'll just have to get more creative.... or more boring!

3 comments:

gilliay said...: Find another family with 2 or 3 small children, that you trust of course, and swap temple nights with them! You watch their kids while they go and they watch yours while you go I may be a madhouse for a few hours, but it's worth the time together.

Also, I follow a blog called Love, actually that is all about dating your spouse. There are great ideas for dates that you can do at home. We've done them a few times and really love them.; July 25, 2010 at 5:21 PM
gilliay said...: PS - your blog template has been deleted. I love shabbyblogs.com and mystylebackgrounds.blogspot.com . Wow, I'm just full of information tonight.; July 25, 2010 at 5:51 PM
Debbie said...: The Lord knows what's in your heart and particularly what will be in your hands! I could come watch them - expensive temple trip!; July 27, 2010 at 10:02 PM

Quotes I want to remember

"The Lord knows our bearing capacity, both as to coping and to comprehending, and He will not give us more to bear than we can manage at the moment, though to us it may seem otherwise. Just as no temptations will come to us from which we cannot escape or which we cannot bear, we will not be given more trials than we can sustain."
- Neal A. Maxwell

"It is a fundamental truth that the responsibilities of motherhood cannot be successfully delegated. No, not to day-care centers, not to schools, not to nurseries, not to babysitters. We become enamored with men's theories such as the idea of preschool training outside the home for young children. Not only does this put added pressure on the budget, but it places young children in an environment away from mother's influence."
-Ezra Taft Benson

“Perhaps there has never been a time when we had greater need to pray and to teach our family members to pray. Prayer is a defense against temptation. It is through earnest and heartfelt prayer that we can receive the needed blessings and the support required to make our way in this sometimes difficult and challenging journey we call mortality.”
-Thomas S. Monson

“Live the gospel as conspicuously as you can. Keep the covenants your children know you have made. And bear your testimony! Don’t just assume your children will somehow get the drift of your beliefs on their own.
-Jeffrey R. Holland

"We hold in our arms the rising generation. They come to this earth with important responsibilities and great spiritual capacities. We cannot be casual in how we prepare them. Our challenge as parents and teachers is not to create a spiritual core in their souls but rather to fan the flame of their spiritual core already aglow with the fire of their premortal faith."
-Neil L. Andersen

"Certainly there are times when getting the family together to read the scriptures does not stack up as a spiritual experience worthy of a journal entry. But we must not be deterred. There are special times when the spirit of a son or daughter is just right and the power of these great scriptures goes down into their heart like fire. As we honor our Heavenly Father in our homes, He will honor our efforts."
-Neil L. Andersen

President Hinckley admonished both men and women to be nurturers. He said, ‘How much more beautiful would be the society in which we live if every father . . . and . . . mother regarded [their] children . . . as gifts from the God of heaven . . . and brought them up with true affection in the wisdom and admonition of the Lord.’ ”
-Susan W. Tanner

"Children are like trees. When they are young, their lives can be shaped and directed, usually with ever so little effort. Said the writer of Proverbs, 'Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it' (22:6). That training finds its roots in the home. There will be little of help from other sources. Do not depend on government to help in this darkening situation. Barbara Bush, wife of former U.S. president George Bush, spoke wisely: 'Your success as a family, our success as society, depends not on what happens at the White House, but on what happens inside your house.' "
-Gordon B. Hinckley

“I give counsel to husbands and wives. Pray for the love which allows you to see the good in your companion. Pray for the love that makes weaknesses and mistakes seem small. Pray for the love to make your companion’s joy your own. Pray for the love to want to lessen the load and soften the sorrows of your companion.”
-Henry B. Eyring

“Reverent behavior is not a natural tendency for most children. It is a quality that is taught by parents and leaders through example and training. But remember, if reverence is rooted in love, so is the teaching of it. Harshness in our training begets resentment, not reverence.”
-Margaret S. Lifferth

"There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply and, in keeping with the devotion she has for God and her husband, prioritizes them above all else."
- M. Russell Ballard

“As parents, we should remember that our lives may be the book from the family library which the children most treasure. Are our examples worthy of emulation? Do we live in such a way that a son or a daughter may say, ‘I want to follow my dad,’ or ‘I want to be like my mother’?”
-Thomas S. Monson

“Security for our families comes from learning self-control, avoiding the excesses of this world, and being temperate in all things.”
-Kent D. Watson

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Our last date

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